Comments on: home/sick http://tinustuff.com/blog/homesick-329.php My name is Love. Sun, 05 Feb 2012 15:26:10 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: I’m Going to Africa | tinustuff.com | loving recklessly since 1972 http://tinustuff.com/blog/homesick-329.php/comment-page-1#comment-321 I’m Going to Africa | tinustuff.com | loving recklessly since 1972 Thu, 10 Feb 2011 19:16:55 +0000 http://tinustuff.com/blog/?p=329#comment-321 [...] there is the issue of the abuse I suffered there as a child when my family lived there from 1982 – 1984. I’m only now feeling like [...] [...] there is the issue of the abuse I suffered there as a child when my family lived there from 1982 – 1984. I’m only now feeling like [...]

]]> By: Tinu http://tinustuff.com/blog/homesick-329.php/comment-page-1#comment-88 Tinu Fri, 05 Dec 2008 00:34:23 +0000 http://tinustuff.com/blog/?p=329#comment-88 Sista Iyabo, I'm once again surprised and honored by your ability to listen and remember things that I tell you. Thank you for helping to reinforce my feeling of wholeness. It's always needed. In re-reading I see that I haven't been clear about the abuse... The three month period in question was just the harshest part. The earliest memory I have of something abusive, I must have been 3 or 4 based on where we lived at the time - the memory is not clear. It happened again with one of the same people, I would say I was about 7, then again with another family friend when I was 9. Then we moved to Nigeria for two years, and the first 3 months we were there, I didn't live with my parents. It was two of my aunt's servants, the cook and the gardener who abused me, as well as the same original male, which I don't feel comfortable referencing in public. If any of my family reads it, the vague way I would have to phrase it would cause confusion. After that, it was on and off the entire two years I was in Nigeria. That three month period I spoke of was when there was an incident almost every day. Oh, and my meeting is over if you need to call me back. Sista Iyabo,

I’m once again surprised and honored by your ability to listen and remember things that I tell you. Thank you for helping to reinforce my feeling of wholeness. It’s always needed.

In re-reading I see that I haven’t been clear about the abuse… The three month period in question was just the harshest part. The earliest memory I have of something abusive, I must have been 3 or 4 based on where we lived at the time – the memory is not clear.

It happened again with one of the same people, I would say I was about 7, then again with another family friend when I was 9. Then we moved to Nigeria for two years, and the first 3 months we were there, I didn’t live with my parents. It was two of my aunt’s servants, the cook and the gardener who abused me, as well as the same original male, which I don’t feel comfortable referencing in public. If any of my family reads it, the vague way I would have to phrase it would cause confusion.

After that, it was on and off the entire two years I was in Nigeria. That three month period I spoke of was when there was an incident almost every day.

Oh, and my meeting is over if you need to call me back.

]]> By: Iyabo Asani http://tinustuff.com/blog/homesick-329.php/comment-page-1#comment-86 Iyabo Asani Fri, 05 Dec 2008 00:00:34 +0000 http://tinustuff.com/blog/?p=329#comment-86 Tinu, wow, you had hinted at this but I did not know the extent of this. You are so NOT damaged. I have had the pleasure of knowing you and I know you to be whole in every sense of the world. When you body is sick, you embrace it and seek to soothe it - that is wholeness. That is not rejecting your body. Putting this out here on a blog post, that is wholeness. You have reclaimed your spirit back. If I understood your blog post correctly, the abuse started and happened for three months when you moved back to Nigeria. This is something we do not talk about in Nigeria. I know so many women that were molested as young girls. The fact that you were "American" would have added to your exoticism and exacerbated the issue. At all of 9 years old! Girl, I respect you for putting it all out here including all your adult romantic escapades - I am humbled as to how fully you are indeed living your life. Iyabo Tinu, wow, you had hinted at this but I did not know the extent of this. You are so NOT damaged. I have had the pleasure of knowing you and I know you to be whole in every sense of the world. When you body is sick, you embrace it and seek to soothe it – that is wholeness. That is not rejecting your body. Putting this out here on a blog post, that is wholeness. You have reclaimed your spirit back.

If I understood your blog post correctly, the abuse started and happened for three months when you moved back to Nigeria. This is something we do not talk about in Nigeria. I know so many women that were molested as young girls. The fact that you were “American” would have added to your exoticism and exacerbated the issue. At all of 9 years old!

Girl, I respect you for putting it all out here including all your adult romantic escapades – I am humbled as to how fully you are indeed living your life.

Iyabo

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